Hope, and Prayer

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As I said in my last post, I do not feel competent to offer solace to the other victims in this scandal: the women who have been cheated, by themselves, and by pressure tactics from having their children. They too pay a heavy price. While I don’t have any personal experience of this, my dearest friend, Jessica does, and in this post from February 2014 she recounts her experience. Neo

Thomas Merton wrote that ‘Only the man who has had to face despair is really convinced that he needs mercy. Those who do not want mercy, never seek it.’ One of the things which puzzles me is how those who do not know of God know they need him and come to him. I have been privileged to share in a remarkable example of how this question is answered by God.

A few weeks ago a friend of mine had a knock on the door of the vicarage where he lives. It was a young woman. She was pregnant and did not want to be. She could not get an immediate appointment with a doctor or a medical social worker, or even the counsellor she was seeing at the abortion clinic; she’d heard that you didn’t need an appointment to see a vicar – so there she was. She’d never been to church and admitted she didn’t know what ‘it was all about’, but she needed an ear. My friend listened to her for about an hour. He did not try to influence her against her will, but to discern that will. She was clearly confused and in some desperation.  After the hour, she left, thanking him.

We heard nothing more until Friday evening, when she telephoned to say she was going to have an abortion the next day; she asked if he would come to see her on Sunday. He asked if he could bring a friend – me, as he felt a woman might help in the situation; she said that would be fine.

I posted about her on my own site and asked people to join me in prayer for her. Most of those commenting did so, although there was one poster who thought we ought to be telling her what a dreadful sinner she was, although, since she knew not the Lord, it is hard to know what she would have made of that. We went, wanting to be there to extend compassion to her, and to do whatever the Lord wanted.

When we went into her small flat, it was clear that she was depressed – it was like a huge cloud over her. She told us that she had been counselled about all the medical things, and the side-effects, but she had never felt so empty and so ‘wrong’. She cried, and it was hard to know what to do, so I held her hands. I asked if she’d mind if we said a prayer, and through her tears she said she didn’t really mind, though couldn’t see it would help. The three of us held hands and I asked God to have mercy on the three sinners in the room, and to grant His grace to the dead child. The room filled with light. We all felt the same thing. She gasped. We sat in silence, holding hands for as long as was needed.

As he light faded, I asked her how she felt. She said: “As though God has spoken to me saying that I should go and sin no more,” I asked if she knew where those words came from, and she laughed and said “I’ve just told you, God told me.” I said I knew, I had heard them too, but did she know they had been said before? She asked what I was talking about, so I told her about the woman taken in adultery. She got very serious: “But I thought you Christians would condemn such a slut – and one like me, but you haven’t, and God loves me.” We all cried.

God, alone, can comfort the child who will never be born, but whatever anyone says, I believe that child is with God. But the would-be mother, a soul so lost she did not even know she was lost, had come to know God’s mercy.

Out of the stuff of tragedy a new hope was born. We cannot know what He has in store for her, or for us – but we can trust and love and show the compassion He shows to us. Is there anything more to Christianity at bottom?

I’ll add a bit here, the woman that Jess talks about here is now engaged to that vicar (then, now a priest) and from what I hear they are very happy. After hearing God’s word, she instantly became a pillar of the church, and still is. So while he and Jess lost the child, mostly because of a lack of time, I think, she and Fr A. saved the mother. But this is an extraordinary story, in that she stumbled across a very good priest, and a very supportive woman to help her. That happens rarely. How many of the women who go through this trauma (for that is what it is) are damaged, some beyond earthly repair? Many, I warrant.

I know a bit about that black pit of despair that she was in. I’ve been there a couple of times, and without help, I doubt I would be here, because I was very close to suicide, and from what Jess has told me, not all of it published, I don’t think this woman would have lived a week, without their caring, prayer, and God’s intervention.

So recoil in horror at this unfolding story, that’s appropriate, but remember this, as well. In this case, God himself quoted Christ to the woman taken in adultery, “Go, and sin no more”. That’s not letting anybody off the hook, that is what Christ taught us to do. They will likely pay a higher price than we could imagine, or impose. So, let us go and do likewise.

As for the people running abortion mills, like Planned Parenthood, well I doubt God is amused.

My comment at the time this article appeared was this:

Thus only those sinners belong in the kingdom of Christ who recognize their sin, feel it, and then catch hold of the Word of Christ spoken here: “Neither do I condemn you.”—Martin Luther, Treasury of Daily Prayer, p. 1235.

Neo

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Anglican Christian, evangelist, survivor, grateful

13 Responses to Hope, and Prayer

  1. “Thus only those sinners belong in the kingdom of Christ who recognize their sin, feel it, and then catch hold of the Word of Christ…” (Luther) – Amen!

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    • NEO says:

      Indeed so!

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  2. chalcedon451 says:

    It is a remarkable story, Neo, and the result has been even stranger than Jess could have imagined when she wrote that piece. Thank you for reminding us of it, not least at this time and in this context.

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    • NEO says:

      It has been, indeed, and a remarkably good outcome. While I detest this context as well, I think important to remember all the victims.

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  3. Reblogged this on My Daily Musing.

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    • NEO says:

      Thank you.

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      • It was my pleasure, NEO.

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        • NEO says:

          🙂

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  4. John Doe says:

    How often do you volunteer at shelters for women, halfway homes, places where women can escape the sorts of problems that lead one to an abortion? Do you put more time into complaining about the problem, fretting over it, talking about it, or doing something productive about it?

    It seems that the whole abortion debate revolves around legality or illegality, and not the root causes. I would prefer that abortion remain safe and legal, while those opposed to abortion put their time and effort into helping the women who are seeking abortions rather than simply vote and do nothing. It seems that on this particular issue most people are jawbones and not backbones.

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  5. It is still necessary to preach morality,and teach sex education, and warn about STD. Even ‘to jawbone’ to prevent, the need to counsel and support the poignant story from having to be told such as yours. I doubt this outcome or compassion occurs very often because ot the sheer statistics of abortions taking place in just the USA every year.

    For example, In ancient times, sex education was a lot less complicated.

    .https://rudymartinka.wordpress.com/2014/03/22/king-solomon-and-lactation/

    .Regards and goodwilll blogging.

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    • NEO says:

      True enough, we do need to support and help avoid the problem in the first case, and I suspect many readers here do. Part of the reason jess wrote this is that there are too many that judge (and harshly) the women involved while not helping them to find alternatives.

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      • i agree with you, judge not………..

        Regards and goodwill blogging.

        What the world needs now in addition to love is wisdom.

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        • NEO says:

          Agreed! 🙂

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