Just another member of the patriarchy | The Catechesis of Caroline

tumblr_m2qaxvmgvF1rpyyq4o1_500I know, it’s Saturday, and usually we try to keep it a little lighter on Saturday. But I read this yesterday, and it haunted me last night. Not least because it reminded me of a similar story that Jess told us, here and here. In that story as well, the baby was killed, and the structure of the mother’s life was seriously disrupted, including her relationship with the father. Not least because of finding Jesus through Jess and the Vicar, the mother survived, although I have no idea about the father.

But it’s another case where the easy availability of abortion hurt many beyond the baby, and another where her decision had the potential to destroy the mother as well. This is the wider evil of abortion. It has effects, nearly all of them bad, on everybody concerned.

We kind of forget this, as we think about the horrors of the Planned Parenthood marketing plan, but it too is real. Maybe there are men and women so callous that they can walk away unscarred by killing their baby, if so, I have never met them. It doesn’t always disable people, but I think it always leaves a scar on them as well, and that is what the literature tells us, as well.

Here’s a bit of Caroline’s story

A few weeks ago my friend posted a status update on Facebook highlighting a plea for help from a forum mainly populated by men. A poster’s girlfriend had found herself unexpectedly pregnant and the young man simply didn’t know what to do.

Without going too much into the specifics of the situation, he was a mature student, his girlfriend was slightly older than him, had a well-paid secure job and a child from a previous marriage. On discovering she was pregnant, her initial reaction was one of delight she assumed that they would be having the baby and set about telling all her friends and family.

Though the young man shared some of his girlfriend’s excitment, he was at the same time, daunted and understandably so. Although he loved his girlfriend, he took the responsibilities of fatherhood seriously and wasn’t sure whether or not now was the right time to take their relationship to the next level. The news that she was expecting sent the woman into what seems to be a frenzy of nesting. Immediately she made a series of demands upon him which involved him making a series of unnecessary and excessive sacrifices. He would need to abandon his plans for a PhD in a specialist scientific discipline, take up extra shifts on his minimum wage job and move in with her. He’d also not be allowed to take any of his pets into her home and neither would he be allowed any space of his own to study. He’d have to make do with the family’s kitchen table. Furthermore the baby’s arrival date was causing him some concern, it was due to coincide with his finals. He’d therefore had a major panic, feeling trapped, that she was bouncing him into a baby that he wasn’t ready for and while he wasn’t averse to the idea of a baby, he just couldn’t see how things were going to work out.

Source: Just another member of the patriarchy | The Catechesis of Caroline

It also makes me wonder, would have they have had all this trouble, in either of the cases here, if they had been in a serious marriage, not the shallow ones, or none (as in these cases) so many of our compatriots have, but the kind of marriage, with God, that most of us remember from our parent’s time, what Rome calls Sacramental Marriage, although there is nothing particularly Catholic about it, although it is a Christian construct. It has to do with meaning the marriage vows, and the commitment they identify. What good is a relationship in which we run away from each other in a time of trouble, that’s when we need each other the most.

A few things for us all to think about this weekend.

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7 Responses to Just another member of the patriarchy | The Catechesis of Caroline

  1. Ike Jakson says:

    Nebraska

    It takes a Man with guts to say what you have cemented here in everlasting words on a forum of the World. I admire and respect you.

    Ike J

    Liked by 1 person

    • NEO says:

      Thanks, Ike. Not so much with my readership though, since they tend to think the same way. 🙂

      Liked by 1 person

  2. Indeed today’s postmodern conscience is surely seared, we are all products of the adamic fall… and make NO mistake we are all born into Original Sin, the depth of which we have no idea (save perhaps when we all see the Judgment and Bema-Seat of God!)

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    • the unit says:

      You know I had to do a bit of research about Bema-Seat of God. Not anything of that wording in my vacation Bible school way back then. Yeah, about a year and a half to go to reach Ezekiel Emanuel’s Bema-Obama Death Panels, then I can look forward to it, will be there with gladness.
      Imagine Muslim saying to or questioning Allah…”What … 72 virgins and no Viagra?”

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      • NEO says:

        Hah, I saw a picture of those​ 72 Virgins the other day​: Nuns with SMLEs. Surprise, surprise, sucka! 🙂

        Liked by 1 person

        • the unit says:

          Missed the pic, will look for it. Anyways…https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UCpwMQ8cRRc
          🙂

          Like

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