The First Duty of the Strong

Today is The March for Life in Washington, when our friends and neighbors will gather in their hundreds of thousands, for the 45th time, to remember the millions of babies legally murdered in the United States since 1973. The President, Donald Trump will address the march via video link from the Rose Garden. Speaker of the House Paul Ryan will address the crowd in person. This is a moral fight in which the United States leads the world. One of the reasons our faith grew, in the beginning, was the fact that we did not leave our children to die of exposure.

Our country was founded on the principle that every person has the right to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. But in truth, without life the others are meaningless.

The article below highlights two stories, one by my dearest friend Jessica which is about the damage caused by abortion to the mother. The other is by another friend, Caroline Farrow, about the damage caused to the father, and the relationship itself. They are harrowing reading, a real-life horror story. This is what abortion does, beyond the infanticide. It harms everybody connected with it.

There are also many local events taking place this weekend, you can find out about them here.

I know, it’s Saturday, and usually we try to keep it a little lighter on Saturday. But I read this yesterday, and it haunted me last night. Not least because it reminded me of a similar story that Jess told us, here and here. In that story as well, the baby was killed, and the structure of the mother’s life was seriously disrupted, including her relationship with the father. Not least because of finding Jesus through Jess and the Vicar, the mother survived, although I have no idea about the father.

But it’s another case where the easy availability of abortion hurt many beyond the baby, and another where her decision had the potential to destroy the mother as well. This is the wider evil of abortion. It has effects, nearly all of them bad, on everybody concerned.

We kind of forget this, as we think about the horrors of the Planned Parenthood marketing plan, but it too is real. Maybe there are men and women so callous that they can walk away unscarred by killing their baby, if so, I have never met them. It doesn’t always disable people, but I think it always leaves a scar on them as well, and that is what the literature tells us, as well.

Here’s a bit of Caroline’s story

A few weeks ago my friend posted a status update on Facebook highlighting a plea for help from a forum mainly populated by men. A poster’s girlfriend had found herself unexpectedly pregnant and the young man simply didn’t know what to do.

Without going too much into the specifics of the situation, he was a mature student, his girlfriend was slightly older than him, had a well-paid secure job and a child from a previous marriage. On discovering she was pregnant, her initial reaction was one of delight she assumed that they would be having the baby and set about telling all her friends and family.

Though the young man shared some of his girlfriend’s excitment, he was at the same time, daunted and understandably so. Although he loved his girlfriend, he took the responsibilities of fatherhood seriously and wasn’t sure whether or not now was the right time to take their relationship to the next level. The news that she was expecting sent the woman into what seems to be a frenzy of nesting. Immediately she made a series of demands upon him which involved him making a series of unnecessary and excessive sacrifices. He would need to abandon his plans for a PhD in a specialist scientific discipline, take up extra shifts on his minimum wage job and move in with her. He’d also not be allowed to take any of his pets into her home and neither would he be allowed any space of his own to study. He’d have to make do with the family’s kitchen table. Furthermore the baby’s arrival date was causing him some concern, it was due to coincide with his finals. He’d therefore had a major panic, feeling trapped, that she was bouncing him into a baby that he wasn’t ready for and while he wasn’t averse to the idea of a baby, he just couldn’t see how things were going to work out.

Source: Just another member of the patriarchy | The Catechesis of Caroline

It also makes me wonder, would have they have had all this trouble, in either of the cases here, if they had been in a serious marriage, not the shallow ones, or none (as in these cases) so many of our compatriots have, but the kind of marriage, with God, that most of us remember from our parent’s time, what Rome calls Sacramental Marriage, although there is nothing particularly Catholic about it, although it is a Christian construct. It has to do with meaning the marriage vows, and the commitment they identify. What good is a relationship in which we run away from each other in a time of trouble, that’s when we need each other the most.

A few things for us all to think about this weekend.


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5 Responses to The First Duty of the Strong

  1. Indeed modernity and postmodernity have turned the West on top of itself, from Marriage to Sexual Ethics, with especially the idea that people of the same sex can come together in the sacredness of Marriage. This is surely NOT God’s Creational program, but it has now become the norm today in most of the West! Where will this lead and end in human society? History tells us surely, in God’s Judgment… the drumbeat of ‘The Day Of The Lord’ approaches!

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    • I know it’s not popular today to speak out this way, but true Judeo-Christianity is never a popular vote, but the Revelation and Purpose/Will of God! A the very least, Christianity must be ideological in a Fallen World! 🙂

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      • NEO says:



      • the unit says:

        Tell and rest easy Fr. Robert. Woodpecker say “Nobody asked me if he be a son of a poplar”. 🙂

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  2. Reblogged this on boudicabpi2015.


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